I think it is probably common knowledge that I am not a fan of Mark Driscoll and his misogyny among other things. I’m certainly not a fan of the things he has done that have gotten public scrutiny and rightly so. But I have to say that the man has issued an apology for the things he did wrong (a copy of it in an article can be found at one of my favorite Christian RELEVANT magazine), in fact he has gone so far as to ask his publisher to remove the title “New York Times Bestselling Author” off of his books. Not only did he issue an apology, he also acted in repentance and is taking steps to try to make amends for what he did.
I know there are many things that I struggle with, over and over again, that I apologize for and make amends for and yet I turn around and do them again. People judge the sincerity of my repentance even though it is genuine every time, because that is what people do, and I can’t say that I blame them. However much I dislike him and however much I would recommend never buying his books or listening to his sermons, it is because of the teachings contained therein.
But when someone issues a pubic apology and takes steps to make amends, even if he has issued a public apology before, I think we should take his word for it, and strive to treat him with the grace that we would like to be treated with had we been the one that screwed up. While I can understand the hesitation to forgive and show grace, if we truly want to follow Jesus our instructions are to forgive him and show him grace. It doesn’t mean we have to expose ourselves to his teachings.
Some of the things that Driscoll teaches have been personally damaging to me, but that isn’t the issue here. I don’t want to show him grace because of such hurtful teachings, but the Jesus that I claim to follow wants me to. I know I would want others to give me a second, third or twenty-fifth chance were I to apologize for screwing up. And all of those who know me know that I need that twenty-fifth chance. Let’s show Driscoll same grace, and give him a chance to demonstrate his repentance. We need to separate his terrible teaching from his apology and forgive him for the things he has admitted he has done wrong. It’s what we are called to do as part of the teachings of Christ.
Writing is a part of who I am, I love it and it is something that I do for leisure, but it also goes much deeper than that, so deep that sometimes I hate it and don’t want to do it. But if I were to choose not to write, it would damage me deeply. So even in the painful times, the only choice that I have is to write. God wants me to write. It is something that he gave me and he wants me to use it.
Which is why, although I am extremely thankful that such sites exist, especially for people that need them, it might be time for me to take a break, where instead of focusing on the issues in fundamentalism, I focus on Christ instead.
As I was making the lists for observing Lent for myself, I wanted something that I could use to engage my small, special needs children in the Lenten season. So here is a list of 40 daily practices for Lent that were designed for my children. If they help you with yours, then that is awesome. Again, if you pick and choose between several lists or observe in a completely different way, do what makes the season meaningful for you and your family. These are little things that shouldn’t take too much time. And remember, be flexible. My children have special needs so if something doesn’t work out, don’t worry too much about it.
1. (Wednesday) Plant the seeds for the garden indoors in a Jiffy greenhouse or similar, seeing as it is still too cold to plant outside. Spend time explaining to the children how God created the seeds to work, try to inspire wonder in their minds.
2. (Thursday) Get the children to help cultivate the gardens, pulling the rest of the weeds and getting the gardens ready for planting. Explain how, after the seeds have germinated and sprouted, we are going to plant them in the gardens.
3. (Friday) Read the children a story about Easter.
4. (Saturday) Take the children for a walk outside to pick up trash and talk to them about taking care of the earth God gave us.
5. (Sunday) Teach the children some prayers, and encourage them to pray them. Things like “The Lord’s Prayer” for example.
6. (Monday) Pull up some worship music videos on YouTube and spend time singing and dancing in worship.
7. (Tuesday) Fill pots with dirt, letting the children get dirty and explaining that God made us out of the dirt.
8. (Wednesday) Begin reading Matthew 5. Read Matthew 5:1-12 today. This list will cover the entire Sermon on the Mount during Lent. Explain that God’s Kingdom is different to our culture and his ways are different than society.
9. (Thursday) Plant one of the seedlings, even if it is too cold still to plant them outside yet. Plant one in a pot for the children to be able to keep inside and observe.
10. (Friday) Make a very basic meal, such as beans and rice, or ramen noodles for dinner, and talk to the children about how other children in other places don’t get three meals a day, or don’t get to eat all the wonderful things that they do.
11. (Saturday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 5: 13-21. Continue discussion about God’s Kingdom vs. the world.
12. (Sunday) Have prayer time with the children, encouraging them to pray their own prayers, as well as reciting some well-known prayers. Talk with them about how they can dialogue with God at any time.
13. (Monday) Do something creative with the children, letting them make a craft, draw a picture, write something, etc. Have them thank God for giving us ways to express ourselves and be creative.
14. (Tuesday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 5:22-37. Continue discussion either where you left off last time or on specific things that come up in the reading of this section.
15. (Wednesday) Sit down and read a story that shows them something about God. Discuss the story.
16. (Thursday) Let the children spend extended time playing in water, talking about the cleansing power of water and also about how we are very blessed to have running water, and clean water, for drinking, and that other children don’t have that. Encourage them to spend some time thanking God for the gift of clean, running water.
17. (Friday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 5:38-47. Discuss themes of justice and charity.
18. (Saturday) Encourage children to help with household tasks, doing more than they usually would. Use this time to talk to them about love and unity and cooperation and being part of a family and how we each do different things and all are important.
19. (Sunday) Have special prayer time with the children, continuing with the recited prayers as well as encouraging them to pray their own prayers. Have those old enough to do so write God a letter.
20. (Monday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 6: 1-13. Discuss themes of forgiveness and for doing the right thing because it is right, not because people can see you.
21. (Tuesday) Spend some time tending to the new gardens and plants, extra time than your normally would on a day to day basis. Encourage the children to look closely at how much the plants have grown, tear out any weeds and use this to explain how weeds come up in our lives and we need to get rid of them.
22. (Wednesday) Get your children to write a note or draw a picture for someone that they love.
23. (Thursday) Give your children a treat, for no other reason other than that you love them. Especially if they have been less than good today. Explain to them how much you love them and then use it as a springboard to share with them how much God loves them.
24. (Friday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 6:14-23. Discuss how hoarding things doesn’t benefit us in the long run, also explain about walking in light and being careful what you allow yourselves to engage in and look at.
25. (Saturday) Sit down and read a story that shows them something about God. Discuss the story.
26. (Sunday) Have special prayer time with the children, continuing with the recited prayers as well as encouraging them to pray their own prayers.
27. (Monday) Watch a movie with the children that has a good message and discuss.
28. (Tuesday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 6:24-33 today. Discuss how God wants us to trust him with our lives.
29. (Wednesday) Get children who are old enough to talk about a time when someone hurt their feelings. Discuss how so often we ourselves offend other people and talk about how we should treat others.
30. (Thursday) Light a candle for just a few minutes, so the kids can see it. Talk to them about how fire keeps us warm and gives us light, but how it can also be dangerous because we can say mean things and gossip which can spread like wildfire and be very destructive.
31. (Friday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 7: 1-6. Discuss how the way we judge others will come back to haunt us. For instance, if someone is having a rough day and we say they aren’t a nice person, that might not be true. Maybe they are just having a hard time. Also talk about how we want to be treated when we aren’t being nice.
32. (Saturday) Take the children to the park to run around in the fresh air. Discuss how God gave us fresh clean air to breathe, and how that is what gives us life. God breathed life into us after he created us specially.
33. (Sunday) Have special prayer time with the children, continuing with the recited prayers as well as encouraging them to pray their own prayers.
34. (Monday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 7:7-14. Discuss how doing what everyone else is doing isn’t the best choice because following God is hard sometimes.
35. (Tuesday) Take pictures of all the children, telling them how beautiful they are and how glad you are that God made them.
36. (Wednesday) Read a Bible story about Easter to the children, spend time discussing it.
37. (Thursday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. Read Matthew 7:15-20 today. Discuss not only false prophets but for the kids use the time to discuss bad friends and how they can lead you astray.
38. (Friday) Spend time talking with the children about the death and resurrection of Jesus.
39. (Saturday) Continue with reading the Sermon on the Mount. This is the final reading. Read Matthew 7:21-28. Discuss the wisdom of following God and the foolishness of not doing so and the consequences.
40. (Sunday) Explain to the children about the resurrection, preferably before church. Also have special prayer time with the children, continuing with the recited prayers as well as encouraging them to pray their own prayers.